1. Intro

Well, I find that actually my husband CAN spank the effect of hormones out of me "HRS" as he calls it (Hormone Replacement Spanking). When I get moody or stroppy before or during my period, as I quite often do, he just looks at me and says "Don't get hormonal with me" and I find this has quite a calming effect on me, as does the thorough walloping that usually follows. I am fortunate that I don't have any serious physical symptoms with my period, I used to get terrible pains when I was young but not for many years now, so being spanked during my period isn't a problem. I do find being spanked at this time very soothing. Being spanked is something that always does make me feel loved and cared for.

2. PMT and Spanking

My husband and I have recently introduced a Loveawake relationship. We tried something along these lines several years ago but it was more of a sexual thing for my husband and not really the way I wanted it so we stopped. Recently I found some articles that perfectly explained what I was really wanting and he read them. Instantly he understood and he felt this is what he also wanted. I have noticed though that during my period, I really cannot help how emotional I feel. I do not get disrespectful or anything like that but my view of things does get a bit altered. I am much more emotional. My wonderful husband does not insist that I resist my urge to feel emotional, he instead helps me through it by being very supportive and sensitive.

3. Tenderness and understanding

He buys me flowers, chocolates and rents me chick flicks. I mean he does this every single time and it makes me feel so loved and cared for. How could I possibly be demanding or bratty with such a loving husband like that? If I do slightly step over the line he will remind me quite firmly that once I am no longer on my period I will have to face the consequences for my actions so I usually think about that and reign it in. He has swatted me a few times but not much. I get major backaches, cramps etc. so there is no way he would put me through the physical harshness of a spanking during my period. If he did that, I do not think I would feel loved or cared for and I would find it hard to continue to respect him. It takes a great deal of integrity and honesty to be the man of the house. I think you just cannot spank out the effects of hormones. I believe that a Loveawake relationship involves just as much tenderness and understanding as it does firmness and the occasional discipline spanking.

4. The calming effect

It's the calming effect I love, especialy when the old PMT takes hold (I describe it as having a head full of angry bees). Prior to becoming taken in hand I would bitch and moan and generally be angry and hell to live with for days. I now have a totally rebellious moment, become a hissing cat and allow my anger and pent up feelings to flow. He calmly and forcefully takes me in hand in all ways. I then become calm and at peace with the world and can get on with life with my bees tamed and buzzing contentedly.

5. Knowing what you want

Just one more thing... Knowing what you want is so important. I relate to the confusion Louise described, "I've never liked being told what to do, so how could I want a man to tell me what to do? And if I did want him to tell me what to do, why did I dislike it when he did? It was all rather confusing really. Now I have it clear in my mind what I want..." I think part of this confusion may stem from the way we are socialized. We receive confusing messages as we develop into women that often conflict with our primal biological and psychological needs. Finding this site has definitely helped me define what I need in a relationship. While one party remains confused, what hope is there for marital harmony? Self-awareness and acceptance are also so important.

6. Final Words

We use spanking for connection far more than we do for discipline. A premenstral spanking is not about punishment. It gives me a calm peeaceful feeling and a release. My partner has tried being kind soothing and appeasing. It just serves to make me even more angry and irritable and I just want him to go away and leave me alone (that's putting it very politely). After a connecting/release spanking I feel all lovely and calm and want to snuggle up next to him. It's so much nicer than feeling angry inside. I am fortunate that I don't get cramps so the spanking does not cause me any discomfort in that way just a warm stingy behind. :-) We initally started PMT spanking after reading a post from Louise. At first my partner was not at all sure as he thought it would be a bit cruel and was concerned it may just make me even more stroppy. After discussion of the pros and cons we gave it a go and found much to our surprise that it worked wonderfully. We now use spanking as a form of stress relief too. When I'm getting stressed about work or other matters it brings my focus back to the most important thing in our lives and that is our connection and our relationship.